From the moment of conception we are in the business of surviving. We come into the world expecting that we can have everything and seeing no reason why we should not have it.

 But we learn fast, learning that we can't always get what we want. The accompanying feelings of loss, frustration, anger, aggression, resentment and sadness can dominate the rest of our lives.

 This book is all about the frustration endemic in our experience of life. It is about the strategies we evolve to cope with that frustration and convince ourselves that we can, after all, have everything. One strategy might be unlimited greed for possessions and power, and absolute determination to achieve the required goal without heeding any impediment. Another strategy might be to assume responsibility for everything, to saddle oneself with guilt for the world. Then there is the strategy of martyrdom, of "having everything" by publicly denouncing one's needs for anything. This book shows how the reader can free themself from the pain of loss, mourning, resentment, envy and greed to learn to live in the present, enjoying what they have.

Wanting Everything

'A very important book about one of the last social taboos - with fascinating implications for us all' Helena Kennedy, QC

 A groundbreaking book in which Dorothy Rowe brings her insight and wisdom to the fascinating subject of money and its place in our lives.

 No one escapes the power and effects of money:'We work for it, we think about it, we worry about it, we dream about it, we want more of it. We spend it, we hoard it, we give it away. We scheme, lie, even kill for it.'

 How we feel about money is central to how we live our lives. We recognize money but we don't know what it means. We, alone of all animal species, use money, but we don't understand it. How could we when it has so many different meanings?

 In The Real Meaning of Money, eminent psychologist Dorothy Rowe unravels the complex network of paradoxes making up our daily lives to show how the individual meanings we create, particularly those concerning money, are a fundamental part of the social, economic and political world we live in.

 An acutely insightful, thoroughly thought-provoking analysis, extraordinary in its breadth and wisdom.

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A superb distillation of the wisdom of one of Britain's most admired writers on the human condition.

 Dorothy Rowe gives insights and comfort on some of the most difficult aspects of life-including: identity and self-esteem, fear, depression and unhappiness, coping with people, power, agreed, guilt and selfishness and getting older.

Dorothy Rowe’s Guide to Life

Never Let the Bastards Win

Dorothy Rowe shows us how to have the courage to acknowledge and face our fears - only through courage can we find a sustaining happiness.

 'Beyond Fear', first published in 1987, has changed the lives of thousands of people. In this edition, the renowned psychologist Dorothy Rowe examines the changes in the psychiatric system since 1987 in the context of showing how most of our suffering comes from our greatest fear, that of being annihilated as a person, when we shall disappear like a puff of smoke in the wind, never to have existed.

 We feel this fear whenever others humiliate or belittle us, or whenever we discover a serious discrepancy between what we thought our life was and what it actually is. The greater our fear, the more desperate our defence against it, the most desperate of defences being what psychiatrists call mental disorders. Yet, by knowing ourselves we can go beyond our fear and face life with courage.

Beyond Fear

Why do we lie?

 Because we are frightened of being humiliated, being treated like an object, being rejected, losing control of things, and, most of all, we are frightened of uncertainty. Often we get our lies in before any of these things can happen. We lie to maintain our vanity. We lie when we call our fantasies the truth. Lying is much easier than searching for the truth and accepting it, no matter how inconvenient it is. We lie to others, and, even worse, we lie to ourselves.

 In both private and public life, we damage ourselves with our lies, and we damage other people. Lies destroy mutual trust, and fragment our sense of who we are.

 Lies have played a major part in climate change and the global economic crisis. Fearing to change how they live, many people prefer to continue lying rather than acknowledge that we are facing a very uncertain but undoubtedly unpleasant future unless we learn how to prefer the truths of the real world in which we live rather than the comforting lies that ultimately betray us. We are capable of changing, but will we choose to do this?

Why We Lie - The Source of our Disasters

Depression: the imprisoning experience of isolation and fear which comes when we realise that there is a serious discrepancy between what we thought our life to be and what it actually is.

 From birth onwards we create our own secure worlds of meaning. Challenged seriously enough, these worlds can crumble, leaving us despairing, frightened, isolated, helpless. But we are not helpless. We can resolve to save ourselves by embarking on a journey of understanding and self-acceptance, and finally and for ever break free of the bonds of depression.

 Dorothy Rowe, the internationally renowned psychologist and expert on depression, brings together in this book what twenty-five years of research have shown her about depression, and shows us how every one of us can take charge of our life and find the way to happiness, hope and freedom.

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